The past few months I’ve had an epiphany of sorts. Maybe its the growing up or maybe it’s just seeing people in a clearer light, but it is happening. This epiphany (or epiphanies to be precise) has shaken the core of what I thought I knew. I guess everyone goes through phases like this that help them realize things, but accepting what I saw of others and of myself has taken me a while to adjust to.
I know people change, priorities change and people grow but it has been so hard for me to come to terms with it. Friends I once thought were everything have left me stranded and the others, I see them for whom they truly are. This has taught me to be selfish. Selfish of my heart that I should protect from people who treat it mercilessly, like its a plaything. Being selfish has also given me a thicker skin. I don’t let words or actions affect me and I just imagine them sliding off of me, distancing myself from it as far as I can.
Now I know not to trust people based on their face value. I know that promises are just that.. promises.. words that can be so easily mouthed without any action being taken. But what this phase hasn’t made me is bitter. I’ve realized that everyone is going through some difficult stage and the way they act out is by throwing darts at others. I see those darts and I understand them, but they aren’t going to hit me. My shield is my empathy. I feel you, I hear you but you aren’t going to get my heart.
So that’s my lesson for today, kids. It’s okay to be selfish as long as you are protecting your heart. And no one is worth those sleepless nights spent agonizing every situation over. Those that are meant to be in your life will be there no matter what. And then there are others that are there only because they feel they owe you. Learn to differentiate. Prioritize the ones that bring you happiness and protect your heart. Always, always, protect your heart.
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Been there, gone through that. Right take away from the happenings. :)
Hope you get some clarity too! :)
i went through a similar learning phase in my late 20s. changes your life and 30s start out a LOT smoother. also, lesser friends with better “quality” is the way to go
Thanks for the heads up! I never actually realized how confusing 20s can be!
Went through something similar. Empathy still let them take me for a ride. Faking concern worked better. However hard I tried to let it not affect me,it just did and I just kept getting hurt. Thick skin and fake concern yes.
Developing that thick skin is such a learning process, isn’t it?
Protecting your heart takes priority over everything else. Wish I’d learnt that sooner.
It’s never too late to realize that! :)